There is this huge barrier to entry in recovery, and every addict and alcoholic has to pass through this barrier before they can attempt to access a new life for themselves. The barrier is all about the struggle for control. It can best be described by the concept of surrender. This is an issue for many in Australia including those here in Melbourne and rehab is the solution.
The classic problem in addiction and alcoholism is that the individual knows that they have an issue. They realize that they cannot curb their drug or alcohol intake, and that they lose their way and this creates major problems in their life. They attempt to keep it within their grasp. They fight and struggle to control their drug or alcohol intake, rather than to simply eliminate.
This approach is based on fear and denial. They do not like the idea of completely abstaining from all drugs and alcohol; this is far too radical and severe for their tastes. So they struggle to limit their drug or alcohol intake. This is their denial in action, as they seek to prove to themselves and to the world that they can have their cake and eat it too. That they can enjoy drugs and alcohol without going overboard with it. But this is not the answer! The answer is to “let go absolutely,” as they describe it in Alcoholics Anonymous.
Whether or not you agree with that program or not is besides the point; their definition and concept of surrender is spot on. You cannot hang on to the idea that you can one day control your drinking or drug use and still manage to get clean and sober. It just doesn't work.
Surrender feels like you are giving up everything. It is a release of your ego, you sort of let go of the caring and the pride aspect of your life. You just let it all slide and agree to get help and take some direction. When you "give in" it is like entering a room, with open arms and embracing the change. Only then is one willing to give up their addiction and allow themselves on the road to recovery through a rehab service.